Its not because its a sexless marriage | 14 comments (14 topical, 0 hidden)
Jesus! (none / 0)

Even if the wife is plug ugly, hasn't had sex with the guy in 25 years and shreiks at him like a banshee - it DOESN'T justify cheating and lying.

Divorce and THEN fuck to yer heart's content.  Or at least tell her you're going to screw around, and if she still wants to stay married, then fine.

 People have all kinds of ways to justify their own bad behavior.  The most childish way is the "she started it" method.

A wire in the fire room

by blueheartinaredstate on 03/13/2008 09:24:00 PM EST

Of course honesty is preferred! (none / 0)

But that's the problem with cheating: it's dishonest, and it's not going to stop.  The problem, from the victim's perspective, can't be how to change the cheater's behavior.  People will continue cheating on their spouses!  It's what the spouse who was cheated on does after that.

Insist until you're blue in the face that men change their behavior (I'm being one-sided here).  Get as angry as you want to at the injustice of their dishonesty.  Demand honesty from them.  Cry your eyes out or scream and yell and sue the hell out of them in divorce court when they cheat on you -- or forgive them and take them back so they can cheat on you again.  Do any of those things that you want.

But you won't change a damned thing.

If you get cheated on, you have the responsibility for your recovery.  Rape victims face the same problem: just because their rapist goes to prison doesn't mean they'll magically be healed.  They may have to do a lot of personal work in order to recover -- but that work and their recovery is their responsibility.

If people want to maximize their happiness then they must claim their own power and accept responsibility when their plans don't work out the way they intended.  Any time you put your trust in someone else, you're taking a risk.  Don't be afraid of it.  Keep taking risks!  Most of the time things will work out really well.  But if something doesn't work out, cover your ass and move on.  It beats the suicidal or murderous alternatives.

by EveningStarNM on 03/13/2008 10:12:14 PM EST

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cheating (none / 0)

Cheatin is one thing, and it's going to happen. Screwing prostitutes and giving your wife STD's is another thing entirely.

 

Somehow Magic Johnson managed not to kill his wife...I'm not sure how but he did.

by acroso on 03/13/2008 10:32:24 PM EST

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Although I imagine those $4,000 whores are not quite as dirty as the $40 ones.

You can argue that point, but if you were forced to choose, it wouldn't even be close, would it?  I'm guessing they're screened (which is why they'd be "less dirty"), like the girls at the bunny ranch.

Besides, do you know how common HPV is (since you brought it up)?  Most common STD by far, and most people don't even know what it is. 

I just saw a disturbing study that said one in four TEENAGERS has an STD, with HPV leading the way.  As for adults, I've read that as much as 75% of the sexually active population has been *exposed* to HPV (doesn't mean they have it, although many do).

New research shows that the cancer risk amy also extend to men because of oral sex.  That assumes you get a potential cancer risk increasing strain as opposed to one causing warts.

by Tom Hanc on 03/14/2008 01:12:37 PM EST

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Its not because its a sexless marriage | 14 comments (14 topical, 0 hidden)