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Do Women LIKE to Be Lied To? | 94 comments (94 topical, 0 hidden)

This question belongs on a script for another Sex & The City episode. I can almost see Carrie typing pensively on her computer screen: "Do all women really want to be lied to?"

Of course not.

First of all, sweeping generalizations about human psychology are rarely accurate. Even if the majority of women wanted to hear pretty lies, it wouldn't apply to every single one of us. Similarly, not ALL men lie when it comes to romance and commitment. To see you and Cenk engaged in this argument was a little ridiculous. I thought TYT didn't do black and white, but gray instead.

Second, how are we defining "lying"? If lying means paying someone a compliment (overinflated or not), or listening, or being attentive, or showing interest -- then there are very few people who would not find that appealing. Men or women. Who doesn't want to feel like they are loved, that someone thinks they are beautiful or handsome, that someone is interested in their point of view and life experiences? Humans seek affection and affirmation because we are social creatures. We don't exactly thrive when sequestered away in isolation, no matter how strong and self-sufficient we might be. Some people may become overly needy and dependent on external positive reinforcement, but it is hardly the case with all women.

On the other hand, if "lying" means deliberately misstating intentions about the relationship, then I have to disagree with Cenk. If a woman is actively seeking commitment, simply hearing the desired lie is not good enough. In the short term, it might result in a payoff of warm fuzzy feelings and sex, but in the long term, it turns into anger, hurt, feelings of deception, as well as a temporarily shot down self-confidence. We want things that are pleasant, not those that cause us emotional pain. Masochism is only fun in BDSM scenarios ;)

Annya

by annya127 on 01/24/2009 05:02:05 AM EST

: Holy Javascript explosion, Batman! (none / 0)

Can we still edit comments? Because WOW that is screwy!
by jarett on 01/26/2009 09:22:36 AM EST

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Do Women LIKE to Be Lied To? | 94 comments (94 topical, 0 hidden)