well, this is my newly formed theory, Women don't like to be lied to, they just believe the lies, because they want the realtionship to succeed.
what do i mean with, they want the relationship to succeed?
well, lets go to that example of women being lied to, that most people probably had contact with, the women that is being blatantly lied to, by a man and that, still believes them, despite evidence and friends concerns, why would they believe them over the obvious? well it is my theory that when the first signs of lying occur, there is a choice to believe in the relationship, and that has time goes on, and evidence starts piling people have simply invested so much of themselves and their faith in the relationship, that they don't want to let go of it, and prefer to keep living a lie, to reaching the conclution that their emotional investment in the relationship was for nothing. now next point.
why does this happen more to women?(it can happen to both genders). Well has many have written in this blog, women are more prone to look for stable relationships, so when a guy comes along, that they feel might be a good one, by whatever standards, they are likely to invest more emotionally, and there for, to more easely believing lies.
Now, why is there a missconception, that women like to be lied to? well, here is the thing, women don't like to be lied to, what they like is to believe that the relationship will work, and that she is free to invest herself in the relationship. Now from a male outside observer, that sees women believing obvious lies, there are 2 obvious answers for why are they acting like that, 1-they are dumb, or 2-they like being lied to, now because most man, can recognise women has being just has smart(if not smarter) has a man, they choose to believe that they like being lied to, without realizing the not so obvious answer that women just want to believe, that they can be loved, by an honest person because that means that their love is honest and true.
by
Hefnar on
01/26/2009 05:10:51 PM EST
