Except that what a person considers to be feminine characteristics is heavily, if not entirely, influenced by the environment in which they're brought up.

desertpear's post contains a perfect example of this, which you've noticed: he (she?) considers weakness to be a feminine trait. This belief is at odds with reality.

And now I'd ask you to extend that skeptical line of questioning to your own assumptions. Do men actually have an evolutionary predisposition to dominate? The evidence weighs against that conclusion. There's an awful lot of child-rearing that teaches boys to be dominating, and girls to be submissive. If the urge to dominate were really so genetically hardwired, we wouldn't need any of this. The fact that we have to teach these behaviors indicates that it's NOT hardwired to do so.

You're committing a very common fallacy, which is to think, "Because I feel something strongly, it must be hardwired into me." It's the same fallacy that the religious make: because they feel better when they pray, they are then convinced that their god or gods must be real, or how else would they get these good feelings?