My post above wasn't directed solely to you. It's more of an extension of that other thread which has grown into a monster.
"If this is the standard for negotiating the tricky road of gender variation then by what right do you have an informed opinion on what women think/feel as you are by your own definition unqualified to hold one."
You misunderstand. I'm merely pointing out that you can't take a male perspective, attempt to shove it into a female perspective, and expect it to align and make perfect sense. It's like trying to jam a square block into a triangle opening. What makes sense for guys, how we experience society and work, our interactions with friends and strangers... they're different, whether we like it or not.
My argument works on multiple levels, sex just happens to be one of them. I could never be a Native American living on a reservation. I could never be a homosexual man who grows up in a hostile environment. I could never be a multi-billionaire that owns 50 mansions... though I suppose there's still time to try. Does that mean we could never understand one another? No. And I never claimed that, go recheck my post if you'd like.
I am merely advocating that people take off their self-centered lenses and realize that others experience things differently from you. We can, at the very least, try to put ourselves in their shoes. You seem to be an individual who can do that.
As for the rest of your post, I agree with you. I think we hold similar stances, so I'm not even sure why we're in each other's faces. I know that there are dudes out there who will heckle women. I've never argued against that fact. The thing that started my ranting was the non-stop statements that the offensive comments ladies get is somehow the lady's fault for wearing those clothes. It doesn't matter if they're expecting it or whatever. It should not happen... as I know it currently does. Guys need to learn to shut up and have some control. Additionally, I don't care about the level of revealingness. It's irrelevant to me. Case in point: the situation in Iran. It's somewhat similar to what's going on here (though at a vastly higher level), except they start freaking out at E&A (elbows and ankles) instead of T&A (hint: this A isn't ankles).
And I think you're in agreement with me... so yeah. :o
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