First, the frequency of adult male with adolescent female sex occurs at a much higher rate that adult female sex with adolescent male. I am willing to guess that 10:1 ratio of adult male offenders to adult female offenders

Second, the social and psychological consequences are much greater for the adolescent female sex victim.

Thirdly, justice properly administered would reduce the occurrence of these crimes.   Harsher penalties for male offenders does more to  discourage this behavior, because male offenders are more likely to exhibit predatory behavior.  The female offender is likely to have some type of social trauma taking place in her life such as divorce, death of someone close or successive failed relationships.

Finally, males cannot have sex without being aroused and willing.   You are fighting the biological imperative for males.