I have a very good friend who was raised in the Catholic church and is conservative and devout. Surprisingly, she is a scientist who speaks intelligently about many topics. With that said we agree on very, very little. However, many years ago when she got married she had the reading in her wedding about "submitting to your husband and your husband loving you as Christ loved the church...blah, blah, blah." I was very upset to hear this horrible reading until she and I had a long talk about it. You need to remember the key words "as Christ loved the church". This means your husband has to practically worship you. He has to give you complete and unrelenting respect. Now, if you do not have a husband like that, as most of us don't. Then I say your respect and obiedience should represent the respect and obiedience he gives you. It really goes to show you that the bible can and should be interpreted in many ways- thank God. Btw- one of those ways can be as a great work of fiction.