12/08/2008 01:42:39 PM EST

The Official TYT Marriage Thread

posted by Tom Hanc

Well, it's official now, Cenk is a married man! With that in mind you can use this thread to post your thoughts, give congratulations, and discuss marriage in general.

I also thought it would be fun to give some perspective on what Cenk (and others on TYT) *used* to say about marriage and married people. I mean, how could I resist?

That's the beauty of youtube...

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Cenk Asks Non-Married Jesus: WWJD?

Ben Explains: Don't Make The Classic Marriage Mistake.


PS---I threw this together pretty quickly so feel free to add more videos in addition to your comments. For example, I couldn't find a marriage related clip with Dave or Jayar.

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The Official TYT Marriage Thread | 51 comments (51 topical, 0 hidden)
Congrats, Cenk! (none / 0)
May you be partners in crime, the best of friends and the closest of confidantes.

(You can take care of the rest.)

J

by jarett on 12/08/2008 06:50:41 PM EST

Ditto! (none / 0)
Or something like that.

by Tom Hanc on 12/08/2008 07:41:14 PM EST

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I forgot to add (none / 0)
When is Wendy finally going to come in the studio to be on the air?

by Tom Hanc on 12/08/2008 07:44:52 PM EST

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Cheers! (none / 0)
(looks at wedding pics) Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww......... Schmoopie whoopie.......  Congrats to you both!  I hope you have a great many years of happiness spent together.

by murphytrix on 12/11/2008 12:39:25 AM EST

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Am I the only one (none / 0)
who spells it "Shmoopy"?

by Tom Hanc on 12/11/2008 08:59:09 AM EST

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You saw pics? (none / 0)
where are the wedding pics?  please help

by fojanis on 12/12/2008 01:59:01 AM EST

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Dear Wendy (none / 0)
Hang in there.

by hazmat on 12/08/2008 08:07:12 PM EST

See (none / 0)
Now THAT was a good comment.

by Tom Hanc on 12/08/2008 08:21:23 PM EST

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May their marriage be blessed (none / 0)

with happiness, love, makeup sex, and winning lotto tickets!

sidenote: Isn't it a little creepy that when religious married people have sex they are making the Lord happy? Is God a perv or just a control freak?

by Badass4Peace on 12/08/2008 11:45:57 PM EST

Both? (none / 0)
I mean, he's everywhere and he sees EVERYTHING so you fill in the blanks.

;)

by Tom Hanc on 12/08/2008 11:51:39 PM EST

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Congrats Cenk (none / 0)
No words of wisdom here, just a congrats!

by AaronWysocki on 12/09/2008 01:04:49 PM EST

I can't believe (none / 0)
that only four of us have congratulated Cenk here. I reject and denounce the rest of you lazy, apathetic bums!*





*If you didn't see this thread until just now you I pardon you.

by Tom Hanc on 12/09/2008 01:12:47 PM EST

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Sorry (none / 0)
Congrats to Cenk and Wendy.  Though I sent a donation/wedding gift earlier with the same message, so I think I should be exempt.  ;)

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 02:31:21 PM EST

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Well (none / 0)
Since you used an emoticon I guess I have no choice but to say you're exempt.

;)*







*Spencer approves the use of this emoticon.

by Tom Hanc on 12/09/2008 02:54:18 PM EST

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hmm (none / 0)
I don't believe in marriage, so no comment.

y

by chrisandyasemin on 12/09/2008 02:33:54 PM EST

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I don't believe in God (none / 0)
but I still enjoy (secular) Christmas.

In fact, I'm going to create a thread on that topic sometime soon, thanks for reminding me.

by Tom Hanc on 12/09/2008 02:55:31 PM EST

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my "nativity" (none / 0)
I think this year it will be a coliseum with little lions and Christians (only fundamentalist/evangelical though).

by desertpear on 12/09/2008 06:06:41 PM EST

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When I was a kid (none / 0)

I used to take all of my mom's ceramic nativity figures (except for the cool farm animals of course) and set them aside so that I could play with my Ninja Turtles in the little barn diorama.  Sorry Jesus.  Shredder hid in the barn after assassinating Splinter.  Something had to be done.  You understand.

I guess I was a blaspheme at an early age.

I hope you all enjoyed that random flashback.

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 06:14:50 PM EST

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Clearly they based the movie Omen (none / 0)
off of your life story.

by Tom Hanc on 12/10/2008 01:45:19 PM EST

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Congrats Cenk!!! (none / 0)

Congratulations to Cenk and Wendy, I wish you nothing but many, many years of happiness!!!

I made many rookie mistakes on my marriage. I don't think I have all the answers but I've learned a couple of things along the way.

Just this weekend we were at my wife's office Christmas party and she asks me: "Who do you think is prettiest?" She then gave me 2 options, pretty girl A or pretty girl B. She even went further and correctly pointed out the girl that I liked the most (she knows my taste).

 So what's the correct answer? On my rookie years I would have answered the question she asked. However, now I know that the actual correct answer is super secret option C: "Honey, you are the prettiest girl in the office". We then had a lovely and fun evening.

by jepombar on 12/09/2008 04:29:34 PM EST

I'm lucky (none / 0)
My GF is cool about discussing how attractive other women and men are.

My ex was terrible and insecure in this regard so I had to insist that my next girl was reasonable (which she is).

But she *does* think I sometimes go too far with looking. Personally I think women look plenty but they do a much better job of hiding it.

by Tom Hanc on 12/09/2008 04:35:22 PM EST

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My girlfriend is great in that way too. (none / 0)

Let me get real schmoopy here for a second. 

[Edit: I'm using the royal "you" here BYW)

If you're girlfriend knows that you love her (and I mean KNOWS) then you're pretty safe in any discussion.  You just have to make it really clear that you're not going to leave her for someone with a more Keira Knightley-like stomach (and not just by saying that explicitly).  Jealousy is often just insecurity, so make sure they're really nice and secure.

And this goes both ways too.  I listen to my girlfriend gush over Johnny Depp, John Hamm (but really, who wouldn't fuck John Hamm?), and whoever else she finds attractive.

Any relationship that you can't have an honest conversation in is pretty much destined to fail, even if the conversation is as dumb as which celeb's ass is nicer.

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 04:50:00 PM EST

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but even better (none / 0)

if your lover keeps it to himself - most of the time. It's not lying; it's just something that doesn't necessarily need to be shared. I think most women, no matter what they tell you, will have just the tiniest twinge of insecurity when men talk about how hot other women are. The mate is always thinking "hey wait, does that mean I'm not hot?" Even if it is only subconsciously. Or she's thinking "that's nice dear," but saying something else so you don't think she's insecure.  Can you tell I analyze too much?

Same goes for bitches that go on and on about hot young guys.

by desertpear on 12/09/2008 06:03:10 PM EST

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Yeah, you're right too. (none / 0)

There's something to be said for both sides of that I guess. 

Stupid reason!  Always ruining my poorly thought out points...

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 06:16:43 PM EST

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It depends (none / 0)
I agree, but it depends.

Obviously you have to look at the situation. If it's strangers and or celebrities, have fun with no concern at all IMO, the relationship should be more than strong enough to have you both fantasizing over Brad or Angelina.

If it's close friends and relatives, be less specific (no "what a nice ass"). But if it's strangers you won't really see again or that you'll barely see again, I say somewhere in between is fine.


I'm not a fan of pretending like the significant other is the ONLY attractive person on earth. I mean it's just flat out absurd! There's something to be said for being tactfully open about attraction, and it may even help prevent acting out.


Because we all know what happens when people bottle things up inside.

by Tom Hanc on 12/09/2008 06:48:39 PM EST

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Interesting impasse. (none / 0)

I can see both sides of this, but I still stand by what I said before and what bias is saying now.  If you have good enough communication with your significant other, you can say pretty much anything in this vein without jeopardizing the relationship (with the possible exception of people that you know in real life that was laid out earlier).  Every night I make it clear to my girlfriend that I'm attracted to her (wink wink), but every night I also make it clear to myself that I'm attracted to other people (nudge nudge).  You can't really go to war with that, but the two aren't mutually exclusive.  I have enough attraction in me to give to everyone.  It's not a competition ladies...  ;)

But I wish we had more female posters (or male's who believe the opposite) to dive into this conversation, because the other side definitely has it's points.

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 07:24:26 PM EST

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I meant "males" (none / 0)
and not "male's".  And yes, I realize that my whole post is invalidated because of this typo.

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 08:09:56 PM EST

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And you're right about bottling things up. (none / 0)

Just ask Michael Savage.

I think if you don't talk about your attractions it makes the thoughts seem much more taboo and tempting to act on.

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 07:26:37 PM EST

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Exactly. (none / 0)
.

by Tom Hanc on 12/09/2008 07:53:36 PM EST

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Among the plethora of strengths the hubby and I (none / 0)
share in our relationship, neither of us has a possessive or jealous personality. It totally rocks. Yes, I am bragging and do know how lucky I am. ;-)

by gialuna on 12/09/2008 11:50:04 PM EST

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Smooth dodge. (none / 0)

Conversations about who's attractive take on a whole different set of rules when it's (1) people that you actually know, and (2) people who are in the room right now.

Well played sir.

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 05:18:33 PM EST

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I have been trained (none / 0)
to say "I don't look at other women, honey schmookums" (I took creative license with the schmookums thing--I don't really say that to my wife), to obtain a happy and uneventful evening. You see, my wife is asian, and asian women don't f%*k around. Ain't no smooth way out. There's my outrageous and racist generalization for the day. I deject and renounce myself.

by hazmat on 12/09/2008 05:25:06 PM EST

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lol (none / 0)

Well then, based on my previous broad generalization (no pun intended), your relationship is destined to fail.  Sorry...  ;)

But I don't think you can be racist.  Ken says that if you have Mexican ancestry you can't be.  You're actually married to another race, so I think you're legally allowed to kill one minority of your choice.  Merry Christmas!

by Spencer on 12/09/2008 05:36:22 PM EST

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a puerto rican friend of mine once (none / 0)
quipped that there's one way to tell if a marriage will succeed. "Ask yourself, is de man poossy-whipped? Dat is all you need to ask". Of course I disagree with him completely, I know how to keep it balanced. But don't tell my wife, okay? I keed, I keed. My wife is my best friend, and that's really the way to tell. But what I said about asian women is still true. Cenk knows what I'm talking about. They don't need to psychoanalyze whether someone's insecure or so-and-so has needs. They bring the hammer down. STRIKE-BACK!

by hazmat on 12/09/2008 05:43:08 PM EST

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female stamp of approval for haz (none / 0)

by desertpear on 12/09/2008 06:05:07 PM EST

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smart man! (none / 0)

by desertpear on 12/09/2008 06:04:03 PM EST

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Even after reading the responses, (none / 0)
I applaud you!! We wives would be LYING if we didn't admit that we'd glow inside!!

by tifosies on 12/10/2008 07:46:24 AM EST

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Congrats Cenk and Wendy!! (none / 0)

From what I hear from you Cenk, it sounds like you and Wendy have a lot of fun and get along well. She sounds wonderful--don't listen to Cenk go on and on about women Wendy!!  I hope you remain best friends and lovers for a very long time.

Now, I don't plan to get married myself, but I am betting that this would not have gone over too well with Wendy's parents (or yours). I'm sure you have made them all very happy.

and remember, you can always get a dog or a budgie to try your hand with having "babies" in the house. Because you know, that is what is coming next from the parents...

by desertpear on 12/09/2008 04:40:28 PM EST

A dog (none / 0)
I think it'd be hilarious to hear Cenk's dog stories. Just imagine the possibilities.

And since it's Cenk he CAN'T get a pansy dog. No little furry yelpers. I recommend a Doberman to appease Cenk's need for a tough, cool looking (and loyal/protective) dog.

Plus everyone knows that short hair breeds are the best.*


*I know, I know, he should get something from the shelter.

by Tom Hanc on 12/09/2008 04:46:22 PM EST

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dobies (none / 0)
are weak sauce.  He needs a mastiff.

by desertpear on 12/09/2008 05:57:21 PM EST

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Nah (none / 0)
I don't like Big, BLOCKY dogs.

No labs or mastiffs or Rotts for me. I like dogs that look sleek and cool.

Besides, the Doberman is even better because he was replaced by pitbulls in the 90's as Mr. Tough Guy dog. Remember how in the 80's the Doberman was the ultimate watchdog?  We need to bring that back in style!

Oh, and Rhodesian Ridgebacks are awesome. You of all people should appreciate that breed. Although I don't like the fact that they're so "aloof".

by Tom Hanc on 12/09/2008 06:44:37 PM EST

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I grew up with (none / 0)
Dobermans- two of which did come from the animal shelter. As a youn(ger) gal, in the 70's, walking the dog was my thing. I walked all over the hill I grew up on and never felt any concern- although I wasn't exactly in touch with my mortality at that time( those were the days, my friend...) But for a girl-child, it was so empowering to go exploring wherever I wanted to. I named my childhood Dobie/Shep mix, Happy(I know, I know.) She was equal parts fierce and totally sweet. Lived to be 20 years old, she did. I highly recommend Dobies and hope to to be owned by one again someday. 

by gialuna on 12/09/2008 11:24:46 PM EST

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Wow (none / 0)
20? That's amazing!

by Tom Hanc on 12/10/2008 01:42:51 PM EST

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Congrats Cenk & Wendy (none / 0)
And may God have mercy on you.

by Weapon X on 12/09/2008 08:57:25 PM EST

Best wishes to Cenk and Wendy! (none / 0)

Be good friends to each other! Make sure to schedule "date nights" on a regular basis. Yes, as in capital 'D'. Dress up, and go out to do this- no microwave dinners for date night!

 

by gialuna on 12/09/2008 11:35:48 PM EST

Wendy and I thank you all (none / 1)
This is a very nice thread and we appreciate all the good wishes and the wise advice.

by Cenk on 12/10/2008 01:04:32 AM EST

Although we don't know the vows, (none / 0)
I suspect that if the two of you keep those in mind, good times and bad, the rest will fall in place! Congratulations and best to you both!!!!

by tifosies on 12/10/2008 07:50:57 AM EST

Congratulations! (none / 0)
Wedding photos looked awesome!  Just catching up this week, but I just saw the recent segment of Cenk talking about nesting versus sexual promiscuity.  Coincidentally this week I picked up "Lessons of History" By Will and Ariel Durant and I came across the "Table of Character Elements" which supposedly "preserve the individual, the family, the group, or the species."  All I can say is way to reign in those instincts to continue on the Uygur name Cenk.  And if you ever have any temptations, stalkings always make great gifts!  

by rev24 on 12/10/2008 05:52:48 PM EST

Stay clear of the doghouse, Cenk! (none / 0)
www.adage.com/brightcove/si ngle.php?bcpid=1370868150&a mp;bctid=3130509001                                                                                           ( Sorry all. I couldn't get the linky to work.)

by gialuna on 12/11/2008 03:54:42 AM EST

cenk's marriage (none / 0)
AWWWW SMOOOPIE PAPOOOPIE!!!! Congratulations Cenk!!!

by TeeHeeHee20 on 12/11/2008 06:28:26 AM EST

Shmoopy (none / 0)
Above it was spelled "schmoopie", here it's "smoopie" and I spell it "shmoopy".


by Tom Hanc on 12/11/2008 10:51:00 AM EST

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